jungkryu told me i should have a blog, and then i realized ... i do have a blog! i just haven't frequented it in awhile. and i'm pretty sure that almost no one reads it, though i have to admit, it's nice to have a record of my thoughts (however nonsensical they may be) to look back upon.
our first anniversary came and went this weekend - hard to believe that just a year ago there was utter madness, an impending thunderstorm, and a bevy of mishaps (including our primary officiant being stuck on a tarmac in chicago).
i was informed that anniversary gifts have themes - now, who came up with these themes, i don't know, because they're somewhat outdated, but alas, tradition is tradition. so for the 1st anniv, the theme is paper.
huh.
what to do about that. so my cousin gave me the brilliant suggestion (or so she thought) to get him tickets. cuz tickets are made of paper. except we just went to see a show last week, and a play the week before that. i have a tendency to just buy him stuff when i see it (on sale) and so having to think of explicit gifts has been somewhat difficult.
so one thing i noticed recently was that while al and i spend a lot of quality time together, the specifics of how we spend that time is usually dictated by me. mostly because i tend to have very definite opinions on what i do/don't want to do, and he tends to be ambivalent or just generally much more flexible.
that being said, i wonder if that sometimes means that he doesn't get to do what he wants to do.
one time he made an off-handed comment that before we met, he used to go to a lot of concerts. it's no secret that i'm not really a fan of rock, alternative, or otherwise loud music venues, and since he hasn't really pushed for such things, we've never gone.
thus my idea - i gave him a gift offer of 2 tickets to any concert of his choice, with the condition on myself that i wouldn't complain about how loud it was, and i'd even pretend to like it even if i didn't.
my cousin promptly yelled at me for being unromantic (thanks unnee). but i don't get it - isn't love about sacrifice? i thought it would be more meaningful that i was willing to do something that i probably wouldn't enjoy, just because it would make him happy.
in any event, when i presented said gift, his response was interesting. he thought it was thoughtful, yes, but then he said something along the lines of "well, when i was single, i wanted to go to concerts and meet people and be in a crowded place and all that. i kind of don't need that anymore".
huh.
maybe pastor danny was right ... he said to us the other day that for most men, when they get married, all or most of their emotional and social needs are met by their wives. (the reverse is apparently not necessarily true, which is why women need to have friends outside of their spouse). but i suppose that makes sense why guys tend to fall off the face of the earth when they start dating or get married...
anyways, i hope he picks a good concert.
t-minus 4 days till greece!
our first anniversary came and went this weekend - hard to believe that just a year ago there was utter madness, an impending thunderstorm, and a bevy of mishaps (including our primary officiant being stuck on a tarmac in chicago).
i was informed that anniversary gifts have themes - now, who came up with these themes, i don't know, because they're somewhat outdated, but alas, tradition is tradition. so for the 1st anniv, the theme is paper.
huh.
what to do about that. so my cousin gave me the brilliant suggestion (or so she thought) to get him tickets. cuz tickets are made of paper. except we just went to see a show last week, and a play the week before that. i have a tendency to just buy him stuff when i see it (on sale) and so having to think of explicit gifts has been somewhat difficult.
so one thing i noticed recently was that while al and i spend a lot of quality time together, the specifics of how we spend that time is usually dictated by me. mostly because i tend to have very definite opinions on what i do/don't want to do, and he tends to be ambivalent or just generally much more flexible.
that being said, i wonder if that sometimes means that he doesn't get to do what he wants to do.
one time he made an off-handed comment that before we met, he used to go to a lot of concerts. it's no secret that i'm not really a fan of rock, alternative, or otherwise loud music venues, and since he hasn't really pushed for such things, we've never gone.
thus my idea - i gave him a gift offer of 2 tickets to any concert of his choice, with the condition on myself that i wouldn't complain about how loud it was, and i'd even pretend to like it even if i didn't.
my cousin promptly yelled at me for being unromantic (thanks unnee). but i don't get it - isn't love about sacrifice? i thought it would be more meaningful that i was willing to do something that i probably wouldn't enjoy, just because it would make him happy.
in any event, when i presented said gift, his response was interesting. he thought it was thoughtful, yes, but then he said something along the lines of "well, when i was single, i wanted to go to concerts and meet people and be in a crowded place and all that. i kind of don't need that anymore".
huh.
maybe pastor danny was right ... he said to us the other day that for most men, when they get married, all or most of their emotional and social needs are met by their wives. (the reverse is apparently not necessarily true, which is why women need to have friends outside of their spouse). but i suppose that makes sense why guys tend to fall off the face of the earth when they start dating or get married...
anyways, i hope he picks a good concert.
t-minus 4 days till greece!
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